The Strength to Let It Be

Once something has already happened, fighting it in your mind only drains you.

You may not like it.

You may not understand it.

You may wish it were different.

But resisting it internally does not change it. It only exhausts you.

Bitachon does not mean you pretend it feels good.

It means you stop arguing with the fact that it is here.

Instead of wasting your energy resisting the outcome, redirect that strength.

Not into fighting reality.

Into how you show up inside it.

You do not control what happened.

But you absolutely control how you respond to it.

Yes, you get to choose how you respond to it.

You can respond with panic.

Or you can respond with steadiness.

You can respond with frustration.

Or you can respond remembering that this too is from Hashem — the One who loves you more deeply and more completely than anyone ever could.

Once you stop fighting the moment, you regain your strength.

Now your energy is not waited on resisting.

It is invested in rising.

Bitachon means accepting that Hashem allowed this moment into your life.

And if He allowed it, then there is purpose in it.

You may not see it yet.

But you can trust that it is not random.

And when you trust that, something shifts.

You stop negotiating with reality.

You start living inside it with dignity and calm.

That is strength.

Not controlling the outcome.

Controlling your response.

And that is where real peace begins.

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Cavities Are Not an Infectious Disease

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Four Excuses

By Yanki Tauber

The "That's how G-d made me" excuse:

Why shouldn't I do whatever I want? After all, if I want it, that means that there's something inside me telling me to want it, right? I'm just being me. Isn't it natural for me to be me?

The "Sorry, I lost it" excuse:

Look, I know it's wrong. But I can't control myself. I have this violent streak in me that... well, once you start me off, I can't stop.

The "I'm special" excuse:

I'm an artist/business tycoon/holy man//commander-in-chief/heiress/scientist. I have very special talents and abilities and great things to accomplish. The regular rules don't apply to me. I can't be constrained by laws designed to keep the herd in line.

The "Little me" and "What's the use" excuse

You know, I used to care about these things and try to right the world's wrongs. But what's the point? The world is what it is, and what I do or don't do won't make much difference anyway. So I just let things take their course.

The Torah reading of Mishpatim ("Laws" -- Exodus 21-24) includes much of what can be called the Torah's "civil code" -- the laws governing criminal assault, theft, damages, loans and rentals, employer-employee relations, etc. But as the Chassidic masters repeatedly remind us, everything in Torah has both a "body" and a "soul": the most lofty or esoteric concept has a practical application, and the most technical law has a spiritual import.

Mishpatim includes the laws of the "Four Prototypes of Damages" (as the Talmud defines them) -- "the animal, the pit, the man and the fire." Technically, these describe four basic categories of damages for which a person is responsible: 1) "Animal": damage caused by one's animal or other possession (e.g., your ox gores your neighbor's cow; your goat eats up your neighbor's tomato plants); 2) "Pit": passive damage caused by one's criminal negligence (e.g., you dig a hole in the middle of the street and someone falls in and breaks a leg); 3) "Man": active, human-inflicted damages (e.g., you break his $1000 lamp or the only nose on his face); 4) "Fire": damages arising from the failure to control potentially damaging forces that are one's responsibility to control (e.g., you're burning garbage in your back yard and it spreads to your neighbor's property).

The "Four Prototypes of Damages," says the Rebbe, also describe four spiritually damaging phenomena: the tendency to blindly and indiscriminately follow our wiles and desires ("the animal"); the failure to control anger and other destructive forces in our psyche ("fire"); the delusion that everything is permitted in pursuit of a "higher" goal ("man"); and the inertia of the passive, hollowed-out soul ("the pit").

As the laws of Mishpatim warn against and prescribe the remedies for the physical "Prototypes of Damages," so does the "soul of Torah" counteract its four spiritual analogs:

Yes, our animal instincts are natural, necessary and desirable, but only when guided and directed by the higher instincts of our G-dly soul.

Yes, volatile forces rage within us; but we have been given the responsibility, and the means, to control them.

No, our highest and most spiritual aspirations are not exempt from the rule of law. On the contrary, when they fail to submit to its higher authority, they become the cause for the greatest evils perpetrated by man.

Indeed, passivity is all too easy a rut to roll into. We must constantly remind ourselves that our actions do make a difference in G-d's world: He created it, He entrusted us with the task to improve it, and He supplied us the resources to do so. We need only scratch the surface of our soul to uncover the faith, the will, the passion and the energy to act.

Trust That Melts Mountains

Tehillim 46 takes us straight into the soul of emuna—where Dovid HaMelech teaches us that even when mountains crumble and chaos swirls, Hashem remains our unwavering shelter. Earthquakes of the world? They’re orchestrated by the same loving Hand that created us.

This perek reminds us that emuna isn’t about “when things go right.” It’s about knowing that even in the roar of uncertainty, Hashem is in the midst. When nations rage, strategies fail, and the world seems unstable—our strength is not in the illusion of control, but in the reality of Divine involvement.

It’s not about understanding every twist and turn. It’s about trusting the One who writes the script. And when we trust? We melt our fears away—just like the earth melts at His word.

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Animal Taming

By Tzvi Freeman

You are the master over the animal within, not its slave.

Just because it burns inside like a furnace doesn’t mean you must obey.

Mental Food

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In One Sentence, What Should I Know?

You should know how to positively connect with others in order to attract the positive force that dwells in nature, and by doing so, enter into a harmonious balance with others and nature.

What Should I Do When Something Negative Happens to Me?

All that is required of me is to understand that everything I receive comes from nature, from the single source that created and governs everything, and advances me toward the goal of us reaching balance with nature.

Every kind of influence upon me is given only so that I will direct myself more precisely toward this goal. Therefore, the question is always: how can I use what I am now receiving in order to aim myself more strongly toward the goal? First, I must connect myself with the goal itself, and only then look at what exactly this influence is acting upon within me. What is it directed against? As a rule, it is directed against my egoism, i.e., against my desire to enjoy for self-benefit at the expense of others, because there is nothing else in me. However, the force of nature that is constantly operating on us in all of our desires, thoughts, and states always touches a specific side of egoism, one of its qualities, manifestations, or hidden corners.

Usually, the strongest and most painful blow to egoism is an infringement of pride, an infringement of the self. We fear shame more than anything. We are terrified of being lowered and humiliated in the eyes of others, of losing our inner sense of importance. The defeat of pride, the defeat of the “I,” is the most powerful sensation we can experience. We are ready to die instead of having to go through such a feeling, because shame annuls the human within us. It destroys the self, leaving only an animal body behind. We cannot agree to remain merely an animal. We cannot descend to that level. That is why we are ready for anything in order to avoid shame.

Precisely this feeling, the threat of shame, the collapse of the egoistic self, is the strongest stimulus that nature gives us in order to push us toward the goal. The wisdom of Kabbalah explains that the entire system of creation, the whole emergence of the worlds, began from this primordial feeling of shame. Therefore, for us, it is the most effective tool for correction.

If we learn to feel ourselves correctly, to constantly awaken an inner analysis of the self, to recognize shame and at the same time rise above it, then it becomes easier for us to work on our egoism in every form. Shame becomes not a destruction, but a guide, a force that directs us toward balance with the positive, altruistic force of nature, to spiritual ascent.

Based on a Conversation about Integral Education with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman on May 30, 2012.

Everybody is going through something. No matter how confident someone may seem, beneath the surface they are simply trying to navigate life the best way they know how. Nobody has it all figured out – we are all learning in real time. We all carry private questions, quiet fears, unfinished goals, and moments of doubt.

Success is not the absence of hardship – it’s the decision to keep going despite it. Every accomplished person you look up to has walked through countless struggles. Behind every achievement were failures no one applauded, sleepless nights no one celebrated, and relentless doubts they had to push through.

Never convince yourself that you’re behind while everyone else is ahead, or that you’re the only one struggling while everyone else is succeeding. Comparison hides the full story. The person you admire has battled insecurities. The person you respect has faced setbacks. The person you think “has it together” has cried over things we may never know about. You are not alone in your uncertainty – it is part of the process.

Progress isn’t a race – it’s a personal journey. There is no universal timeline for spiritual growth – you are on your own unique path, and it doesn’t need to resemble anyone else’s. Growth rarely looks glamorous while it’s happening. Trust that there is more unfolding for you than you can currently see. Your story is not done – and some of the most meaningful chapters are still being written.

Inspired by the teachings of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810)