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Rebecca Duesterbeck

Madison, WI, United States

Retired Stormtrooper/Insurance

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20 Feb 16:18

The 10% Rule

You don’t need to be perfect at Bitachon.

You don’t need to be unshakeable.

You just need to aim to be 10% steadier than you were yesterday.

Bitachon is not about becoming superhuman.

It’s about shrinking the gap between stimulus and response.

Between what happens to you

and how you choose to show up.

When something frustrating happens:

Instead of reacting in 1 second,

you react in 2.

Instead of spiraling for an hour,

you spiral for 20 minutes.

Instead of replaying it all night,

you release it a little earlier.

That’s growth.

You don’t need to eliminate your emotions.

You need to shorten their rule over you.

Every delay becomes practice.

Every irritation becomes another rep.

Every uncertainty becomes a chance to trust.

That’s how calm is built.

Not by thinking about it.

By living it.

And then one day, you notice something.

The waves are still there.

But they don’t knock you over like they used to.

That’s Bitachon settling in.

Little shifts.

Done consistently.

Until steady just feels normal.

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16 Feb 13:41

In One Sentence, What Should I Know?

You should know how to positively connect with others in order to attract the positive force that dwells in nature, and by doing so, enter into a harmonious balance with others and nature.

Based on the lesson on Day 1 of the Guadalajara World Kabbalah convention on July 17, 2015

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16 Feb 13:15

Hidden within every moment is the ability to begin anew. No matter how tangled the past may feel, no matter how many wrong turns you think you’ve taken, you have the power to restart. It doesn’t require perfect timing or circumstances – just the willingness and the decision to try again.

Your past does not determine your future. Never let your missteps prevent you from taking your next steps, and never let your history dictate your destiny. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.

Starting over doesn’t necessarily erase the past, but it can change what it means. The past becomes a lesson rather than a limitation or life sentence; it becomes an experience rather than an identity. The very things that once felt like setbacks can become the foundation for wiser choices and deeper strength. Restarting is not retreating – it’s a declaration of determination; it’s refusing to allow your yesterday limit your tomorrow.

You don’t need dramatic reinvention to begin anew. Sometimes it starts quietly – with a shift in mindset, a renewed commitment, or a softer inner voice. It may be trying again after failure, forgiving yourself after regret, or daring to believe that change is still possible. The ability to restart is proof that you are not defined by your past, but by where you go from here.

You are the author of your story; the first chapters don’t determine the next chapters. Every moment is an opportunity to turn the page, to rewrite, to rebuild, to renew – only you can choose what fills the blank spaces ahead. So begin again, and again – as many times as necessary – not because the past disappeared, but because your future is still being written.

Inspired by the teaching of Reb Noson of Breslov (1780-1844)

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15 Feb 18:54

Let's be honest about what's happening right now.

The global landscape is fractured. Geopolitical power is shifting, economies are uncertain, and systems we once relied on are crumbling. You could be forgiven for feeling like you're caught in the eye of a relentless storm.

The world is changing. Question is... are you?

Because here's the truth: you have a choice. You can be tossed around by the chaos, reacting to every shift and tremor. Or you can become a pillar of strength and reason—grounded, steady, resilient.

Now more than ever, it's critical to remain steadfast. To conserve your energy. To rebuild your personal boundaries. To recognize your innate ability to create and be the change the world desperately needs right now.

But here's what most people don't understand about uncertainty:

From a classical, Newtonian perspective, uncertainty is something to fear, control, or eliminate. It represents chaos, unpredictability, danger.

From a quantum perspective? Uncertainty is opportunity.

Uncertainty means the outcome isn't fixed yet. It means infinite possibilities are available. It means you—as the observer—have the power to influence what emerges.

When you understand how to work with uncertainty instead of against it, you stop being a victim of change and start becoming a conscious creator of it.

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15 Feb 17:24

Open A Feather Pillow and Let The Feathers Scatter

I once heard a rabbi tell a man to cut open a feather pillow in the street and let the feathers scatter. When the man returned, the rabbi told him to go gather every feather.

He couldn’t.

And the rabbi said gently, “So are the words once they leave you.”

That image has never left me.

Words can feel light while it is leaving us.

But its weight is carried by the world.

They settle.

They linger in a room.

They echo in a heart.

They become part of the atmosphere we live inside.

I keep thinking about that.

How a sentence can leave my lips and continue living somewhere I cannot follow.

And yet, there is a moment before sound.

A small, almost invisible pause where the word still belongs to the heart.

Where a reaction can soften.

Where dignity can be protected.

Where kindness can still enter the room first.

Rav Pam teaches that the tongue is only the pen.

It is the heart that writes.

And I feel that.

When the heart learns to see goodness, the words follow.

Maybe that is where this work begins — not in the mouth, but in the way we look at one another. Because every soul carries His breath. And perhaps guarding our words is not only about restraint, but about remembering: we are speaking about His children.

The Vilna Gaon teaches that every moment a person holds back from speaking negatively carries a reward beyond what even angels can comprehend.

Not because silence is empty.

But because sometimes nothing is said — and everything is transformed.

And I’m beginning to understand what can grow inside that pause.

Maybe that small pause —

before the word,

before the tone,

before the reaction —

is one of the holiest spaces we live inside.